Whether it is in love, work, or life in general, we may desire change, but because we don't know how it will turn out, we choose to not take action.
The fear of an uncertain outcome is very common and is often at the root of what holds us back from doing the things we say we want to do.
A guarantee of outcome is what many of us think we need before we can move towards our heart's desires. While there are many different ways this belief creates our reality, I will share just a few examples where I see its' influence in our lives: when it comes to committing to love, connecting with others, ending relationships and starting new ones, pursuing our dreams, changing jobs, or just trying something new.
As a therapist, I see this fear replaying over and over again with so many people. They want the guarantee...the sure thing, a certain outcome, an assurance before making a move. Basically, they hold out for a guarantee that does not exist. And by doing so, miss out on creating the life they really want.
Having such an outlook on life can give you a sense that life is passing you by.
But what if you're the one who has been passing up on life's possibilities by continually seeing them as not good enough?
Why do we do this to ourselves?
Fear.
We are afraid of going through pain, disappointment, and disillusionment. We are afraid that things may go horribly wrong, and then what? So, we choose not to go with the possibilities. Instead, we wait for the guarantee. We choose safe and familiar over change and uncertainty.
Fear is the driving force behind the need for a guaranteed outcome, and it manifests in our lives in the form of self-protection. The problem here, is in becoming too guarded and thereby limiting our choices.
The more we self-protect from life's uncertainties, the less inclined we are to try something that involves taking risks.
What is the alternative?
A different perspective about Yourself.
Life is uncertain. Unpredictable. Always changing. However, there is a way to live your best life possible knowing there are no guarantees at all. It all comes down to this: Trusting Yourself.
Trusting that you won't abandon yourself in your time of need. That, no matter what happens, you can count on yourself to face any situation. It's having a deep sense of faith about your ability to care for yourself knowing that within you there is a determined spirit to survive.
In the end, it's about betting on yourself rather than on a certain outcome. You are the sure thing and trusting that is an absolute necessity for a fulfilled life.
For many, this is a learning process, and that's okay.
I hope you feel inspired to trust yourself more and be blown away by what you see!
Thank you for reading.
